I’m also curious about this topic as well; while I enjoy the confidence and fun that comes out of showcasing that extra bulge from my raw skinny jeans, for some reason I get really self conscious with my partner touching its surface and feeling it as an odd texture. So when I suspect anything intimate I kind of make sure I discretely remove it before anything.
But this kind of defeats the purpose of my confidence in public but lack of confidence when with my loved one. I’m also curious to hear more from others how they feel about their spouse/partner if they’re unaware of this, and the potential embarrassment that comes from them discovering?